Spending quality time with a loved one who is approaching that greatest celebration of life is the most precious gift you can hope to receive. You have been given an opportunity to really enjoy getting to know them better than you ever did before. These are the moments that are truly be treasured and definitely not a reason to think of it as a time of vigiling for the dying.

Having developed a sense of peace and accepting, are you are now equipped to handle the issues involved in the dying process. It is imperative that you gain the right frame of mind to be there for the other person. Your personal wishes and issues are not of concern here, your understanding of your loved one is.

This is when you get to shine as the person who can effortlessly get things done. You also need to be totally honest and forthright with everyone as to what your basic needs are. You are the caregiver and must be accommodated, too. But, you can’t have it all your way. You must work out a means of both parties getting the rest, comfort and relaxation as possible.

This is not a time when anyone is going to get everything as they want. But, this does not mean that it is impossible to have harmony in the home. This is the time for enjoying getting to know each other much better, and is what you need to focus on the most. Be sure to give yourself leeway. All of us like our moments alone, but compromise is the road to happiness.

People review the past all along the road of life, each and every day. There are times when we get absorbed in our pasts. Your loved one is naturally going through the same thing. When they seem troubled offer a gentle word of reassurance and let them know you love them. You are on their side. Remove stress on all of you by tending to business needs as soon as they arise. This only helps to return everything to that wonderful sense of tranquility.

Each member of the household needs to feel vital to the home. Doing daily chores are a good way to prevent them from feeling as if they are a ‘bother’ to anyone. Maintain the usual status and let them help with any and all of the things they are able to do. Otherwise, gently ask them if they need anything at the moment, the go on about your business.

When you have to attend errands, or any other matters, take them with you if they are able to be out of bed. This is not the time to leave them out of the activity. It is the time to include them as if there were no other possibility. Plan outings and activities that will keep them occupied and enjoying life and maintain that companionship that so vitally important.

Keep this in mind, human beings are unlike the rest of the animal kingdom. We have the ability to properly care for our relatives, friends and neighbors. We get to enjoy all of life, and that enjoyment is what rewards us the most.

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